Decisions, decisions, decisions... whether we like it our not we have to make decision. Everything in life is a matter of our decision making.
I find it quite ironic that sometimes when it comes to personal relationships, many are not as discriminating or as discerning as when they deal with matters like those pertaining to business, religion or politics. To illustrate: a young woman—educated, a professional with a bright future ahead of her—enters into an intimate relationship with a guy she finds cute and amusing, but has yet to finish school, is not gainfully employed and has expressly told her that they are just MU (mag-un?). This woman, not even sure of her feelings for the guy but sure that her parents would disapprove of him is at the same time part of a company’s management team involved in scrupulously scrutinizing the financial statements, operational viability, quality programs or audit certifications of suppliers or contractors for that company’s benefit and best interests. Had she applied the same standards in her work to her love life, she probably would not be in a dilemma about her so-called relationship. Why? Because she would not enter into it in the first place knowing that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages.
once in a while we are swayed by a surface. It takes time to scratch beyond the obvious and see what lies beneath. Being in a relationship is more than just having someone to HHWW (hold hands while walking).
For example, one’s partner isn’t always going to please him or her.
Sometimes, he or she will probably infuriate the person he or she loves.
That’s okay. In fact, some experts believe that healthy arguing can increase intimacy. The important thing is they still can compromise and love each other when it’s all over. What if they can’t? If it’s a dating relationship, then they have to think hard and make a choice. One can’t always have to wait to be struck by a ray of light, fall off a galloping horse and get up a changed person. Most of the time, we have to discern and make a decision.
is funny how people are choosy about the food that they eat, the clothes or accessories that they wear, the cars that they drive, even the companies they would like to work for or be affiliated with when sometimes they aren’t too careful who they give their hearts (or bodies) to. It is always difficult to choose, especially where there is a surfeit of attractive options.
More so when one does not have a clear idea on what he or she wants. Good decision-making is a habit. A habit is something developed over a period of time. The ability to decide well grows gradually like a fruit. It is cultivated and nurtured. What you reap is therefore what you have sowed. But even if with all the deliberation, reflection, or careful consideration, one is still at a loss on what to do, there’s a little prayer that always helps and strengthens me when making a decision. “Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”
That prayer is certainly helpful. More than a year ago, I was working with these people, doing really good things but I wasn’t happy. Some people were stopping me from exploring possibilities for me to become a better person. So I was kind of down. Then my mentor said I should be in an environment where I can grow, where my passion to think out of the box is taken positively. At times, I am also at a crossroad, too. I know I will eventually have to decide on somethings. At times, we meet little superheroes in some damn track. We see those crooked smiles, those little nuances --- those little things that have happened to their lives that have beaten them down a little bit. But somewhere deep inside there is that little superhero that keeps on getting back up. I admire these people.
They decide to do all kinds of stuff while battling it on. They have the guts to do what they believe is right, regardless of the ramifications. Life is imperfect. It’s important to be in an environment that gives us reason to choose to still laugh, to smile. Otherwise, we might just have to move on to where one can be incredibly happy. Life is imperfect. But the good thing is the choice is in our hands.
We just have to seize it. Carpe diem!
Tomorrow is the barangay and SK election in the Philippines. Are you going to get out and vote? I hope so, you will make a good decision before voting and that it will be a peaceful and honest election.
Happy Sunday everyone!
I find it quite ironic that sometimes when it comes to personal relationships, many are not as discriminating or as discerning as when they deal with matters like those pertaining to business, religion or politics. To illustrate: a young woman—educated, a professional with a bright future ahead of her—enters into an intimate relationship with a guy she finds cute and amusing, but has yet to finish school, is not gainfully employed and has expressly told her that they are just MU (mag-un?). This woman, not even sure of her feelings for the guy but sure that her parents would disapprove of him is at the same time part of a company’s management team involved in scrupulously scrutinizing the financial statements, operational viability, quality programs or audit certifications of suppliers or contractors for that company’s benefit and best interests. Had she applied the same standards in her work to her love life, she probably would not be in a dilemma about her so-called relationship. Why? Because she would not enter into it in the first place knowing that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages.
once in a while we are swayed by a surface. It takes time to scratch beyond the obvious and see what lies beneath. Being in a relationship is more than just having someone to HHWW (hold hands while walking).
For example, one’s partner isn’t always going to please him or her.
Sometimes, he or she will probably infuriate the person he or she loves.
That’s okay. In fact, some experts believe that healthy arguing can increase intimacy. The important thing is they still can compromise and love each other when it’s all over. What if they can’t? If it’s a dating relationship, then they have to think hard and make a choice. One can’t always have to wait to be struck by a ray of light, fall off a galloping horse and get up a changed person. Most of the time, we have to discern and make a decision.
is funny how people are choosy about the food that they eat, the clothes or accessories that they wear, the cars that they drive, even the companies they would like to work for or be affiliated with when sometimes they aren’t too careful who they give their hearts (or bodies) to. It is always difficult to choose, especially where there is a surfeit of attractive options.
More so when one does not have a clear idea on what he or she wants. Good decision-making is a habit. A habit is something developed over a period of time. The ability to decide well grows gradually like a fruit. It is cultivated and nurtured. What you reap is therefore what you have sowed. But even if with all the deliberation, reflection, or careful consideration, one is still at a loss on what to do, there’s a little prayer that always helps and strengthens me when making a decision. “Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”
That prayer is certainly helpful. More than a year ago, I was working with these people, doing really good things but I wasn’t happy. Some people were stopping me from exploring possibilities for me to become a better person. So I was kind of down. Then my mentor said I should be in an environment where I can grow, where my passion to think out of the box is taken positively. At times, I am also at a crossroad, too. I know I will eventually have to decide on somethings. At times, we meet little superheroes in some damn track. We see those crooked smiles, those little nuances --- those little things that have happened to their lives that have beaten them down a little bit. But somewhere deep inside there is that little superhero that keeps on getting back up. I admire these people.
They decide to do all kinds of stuff while battling it on. They have the guts to do what they believe is right, regardless of the ramifications. Life is imperfect. It’s important to be in an environment that gives us reason to choose to still laugh, to smile. Otherwise, we might just have to move on to where one can be incredibly happy. Life is imperfect. But the good thing is the choice is in our hands.
We just have to seize it. Carpe diem!
Tomorrow is the barangay and SK election in the Philippines. Are you going to get out and vote? I hope so, you will make a good decision before voting and that it will be a peaceful and honest election.
Happy Sunday everyone!
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